As you can probably tell from my previous post, the past few days have not been so kind to me. And it was time for me to be kind to myself! Tonight I had a yummy dinner two of my best friends. We splurged a little, monetarily and calorically. I came home and sat on my bum! I watched several episodes of Pretty Little Liars, ate some ice cream, and shed a few tears.
I decided to take a long bath and watch an episode of the House of Cards’ new season. I am on episode 4 now! Don’t worry! No spoiler alerts! I don’t know about you, but Claire Underwood is my idol. Not only is she sexy as hell but she’s courageous, intelligent and ballsy. I usually have a glass of wine with my bath but I had cheated already at dinner and with my bowl of ice cream.
A bath is such a simple act, but it is overwhelmingly calming. I am currently completing my MSW, and we frequently talk about “self-care.” I hope everyone reading this takes at least one day out of their week to do a little self-care. It can be a 5 minute period, but take every bit of those 5 minutes and devote it to yourself. Until I entered into my graduate studies I never considered the importance of self-care. And if I’m being completely honest, many days go by where self-care is the very last thing on my to-do-list.
Next week is spring break at our University, and acts of self-care are my only plans! I recently took a few items to a local consignment shop and I made a decent amount of money from selling them. I have decided to schedule a massage with my extra cash. This is definitely a splurge for me, but I am oh so excited about it :0!
Here’s my list of self-care acts:
- Bath time: With an excess amount of lavender bubble bath and salts. I’ll usually light a candle (a lighter scent) and pour a glass of wine. Depending on my mood I’ll either play some calming music (Evening chill and Totally Stress Free stations on Spotify are great) or my favorite Netflix show at the time.
Cost: $, very minimal. Just grab some bubble bath or bath salts at your local dollar store (see previous post).
- A facial mask: My favorite is Peter Thomas Roth Cooling Sulfar Masque. It’s perfect for my skin because I get occasional breakouts, and also need moisture. This is a little self-care while making sure my skin stays clear!
Cost: $$, a little on the pricey side. I saved up my Ulta rewards points and got this beaut for only $10 (originally $40). You can always get a cheaper mask at your local drugstore.
- Hair repairing mask: I wash my hair (no conditioner) and do not wrap it afterwards. It’s best to put the mask on your hair wet, not damp. I leave it on all night! My favorite mask is by Joico, K-PAK RevitaLuxe. I do a lot of damage to my hair from styling to coloring. If I use this once a week, my hair stays in good condition.
Cost: $$, around $20. Again having an Ulta rewards card saves me big bucks on this, and I always use my 20% coupon that comes every now and then to buy this. You can also make a homemade mask!
- Retail therapy: Yes, I shamelessly added this to my list. I don’t mean I go out and spend hundreds of dollars each time I need me time, but I’ll save up to be able to purchase something I’ve been wanting. The next item on my wish list is the new Benefit mascara.
Cost: $-$$$$, as little or as much as you have/want to spend. Sometimes this means running to the dollar store or saving up over a few weeks for that item I just HAVE to have.
- Going to the gym: YES, this is actually on my self-care list. I always feel so much better after I’ve gotten in a good workout. It makes me feel empowered to be doing good things for my body. And work on my booty too!
Cost: $$, yes I pay a monthly fee. However, exercise can be free. One of my favorite things to do when the weather is nice out is to go on a run, it always clears my head.
- Have a cheat meal: Or three haha! I love pizza; it’s my favorite “feel sorry for myself” food. And cookies, Tollhouse are the best! Now, I am not promoting food as a coping skill AT ALL. I learned better than that, but don’t hold yourself to some ridiculous standard all the time and enjoy the delicious food on this earth.
Cost: $-$$$$, again you can spend as much or as little as you want. Luckily for me I can get a frozen pizza (California Pizza Kitchen is yum) and cookies for less than $10.
- Get my nails done or do them myself: There is something about getting a pedicure that completely relaxes me and makes me feel good. I love having my toes done, I usually never go without painted toes. I also have a LED light at home so I can do gel polish manicures whenever I want.
Cost: $$, depends on where you go or if you do it yourself at home.
- Read a book FOR FUN: I really enjoy reading but in graduate school I hardly ever find the time to read for enjoyment. My reading time is usually spent falling asleep on boring textbooks as I try my best to read 3 chapters at a time. I have been trying to read a little every night, before bed, of a book I actually want to read. I’m currently reading Gone Girl and it’s wonderful!
Cost: Essentially free, but I guess the initial cost of the book. By the way there some free books online, if you want to make it completely pocketbook-friendly.
- Do some simple yoga: I LOVE LOVE LOVE doing yoga. I would love to have the time and energy to go to at least 3 yoga classes a week but that’s NEVER the case. Try doyogawithme.com. It has great stuff you can do in the comfort of your own home.
Cost: $, free if you do it at home and a class fee if you go to a studio. By the way, if you’re a student most studios offer a discount.
- Tell yourself “I love you”: I do not do this nearly enough, and maybe if I said it more I’d start to believe myself. We are all beautiful human beings doing the best we can in our lives, so drop the 24/7 pressure and tell yourself how much you appreciate the things you do!
- Say “thank you”: Taking time to appreciate what we have is such an eye-opening experience. I would never diminish anyone’s struggles, or my own but this really helps me put my situation into perspective. I may have gotten a 70 on a test but I worked my ass for that 70. I may be feeling a little down because someone hurt me, but I have a beautiful puppy to put a smile on my face.
- Call your mom: It doesn’t have to be your mom but call someone you love, and tell him or her that you love them. My Mom is my best friend and biggest supporter. Whenever I am feeling a little blue I know I can call my mom. Things are gonna get brigher, and Mama knows best, always.
Cost: FREE, well I guess the phone bill should probably be paid 😉
Please try and remember yourself, and thank your body for supporting your beautiful life. I hope this give a few people inspiration and feel free to share your ideas of self-care!